Alright! I don't particularly like conflict stories as it gets more conflicting along the way. The following is a super concise story of something that I would like to forget for good. This happened not too long ago. Names have been changed to protect myself.
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Here it goes:
Apple has a group of good friends. They would always hang out together in a big group. However, not everyone in the group agrees with each other at times. There was once, one of her friends, John, invited her to a very joyous event. On the day of the event, she was late as she has lost her way. John called her up a couple of time to check how she was. The event was about to start. One last call was made and she flared up. “I told you that I am lost and why are you still bothering me?” She yelled into the phone angrily. John barked into the phone,” I am being concern and this is what i get?” Soon after, their relationship turned sour and Apple drifted apart from this old group of friends whom she has known for many years.
At the meantime, Apple has found a new group of friends. They told each other their problems and seek solace with one another. Apple told them about her story with the old group of friends. Upon hearing the issues raised, they stood firmly on her side. They believed every word that she has said and gave their comments on the issues. Apparently, those comments were in favour to Apple. Apple became very angry and started blogging about people who has wronged her. Prior to that, Apple has always been a frank and straightforward person. She would say whatever that bothers her even if it means to offend those around her. Soon, someone left a comment on her blog and said something unhealthy. She suspected that person to be John and confronted him on the blog. John felt that he was maligned. Being stubborn and self-righteous, he started to blog about her changed in attitude after she has met her new friends. He also commented on how “helpful” her new friends were in sorting discord. Apple, not wanting to lose in this rat race, retaliated. Even her new friends backed her up in the retaliation.
Not long after, John demanded an apology from her for the reckless and irresponsible remarks on her blog. He even warned that if she doesn’t apologise, he would sue her for defamation.
The problem comes: How should the both of them do so that the cut wouldn’t go deeper and what could have been done to savage this relationship?
FYI: PLEASE DO NOT MISTAKEN ME AS (an) APPLE OR EVEN JOHN!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Why is Effective Communication so important to me??
Greetings! Welcome to Miranda’s weekly blog show! My blog will be as semi-formal as a blog should be, just like what Joker in The Dark Knight says: Why so SERIOUS?!
I believe there are tons of reasons why developing effective communication skills are important but I would only touch on 3 points.
Point 1: It is important to have good interpersonal communication as this would ward off gossips like a talisman. As all of you should know, gossiping is the most efficient way to kill time with a bunch of like-minded colleagues. However, gossips are deadly. However, if I am an effective communicator, I would be able to work well with others which also mean that I can earn respect from my fellow confreres.
Point 2: Next, I believe that knowing oneself would mean being able to perform well
be it during a presentation or interview. We all know that sitting on the hot interviewee sit is torturous and arduous. However, when you know that the position that you opt for is something that suits your personality and working style, it would mean that you will be able to answer those demanding and brutal questions confidently and eloquently which can be achieved from effective communication skill.
Point 3: Lastly, it is important to foster intercultural communication as it would make me sincere and genuine. As the saying goes, first impression counts. When I understand the culture background of my client, I would be prepared to ‘deal with them accordingly’. Getting drunk and dizzy is part and parcel of a Japanese life. Therefore, as an effective communicator, I have to make sure that my Japanese clients do not sleep on the streets after 50 rounds of Asahi. Hence, if anyone is capable of dealing with your clients according to their cultural background, trust me, you will be the person your boss YEARNS for.
At last, I will leave you a quote from George Bernard Shaw that set me thinking:
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
Peace out!
P.S: GBS won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925. Some guy!
Miranda
I believe there are tons of reasons why developing effective communication skills are important but I would only touch on 3 points.
Point 1: It is important to have good interpersonal communication as this would ward off gossips like a talisman. As all of you should know, gossiping is the most efficient way to kill time with a bunch of like-minded colleagues. However, gossips are deadly. However, if I am an effective communicator, I would be able to work well with others which also mean that I can earn respect from my fellow confreres.
Point 2: Next, I believe that knowing oneself would mean being able to perform well
be it during a presentation or interview. We all know that sitting on the hot interviewee sit is torturous and arduous. However, when you know that the position that you opt for is something that suits your personality and working style, it would mean that you will be able to answer those demanding and brutal questions confidently and eloquently which can be achieved from effective communication skill.
Point 3: Lastly, it is important to foster intercultural communication as it would make me sincere and genuine. As the saying goes, first impression counts. When I understand the culture background of my client, I would be prepared to ‘deal with them accordingly’. Getting drunk and dizzy is part and parcel of a Japanese life. Therefore, as an effective communicator, I have to make sure that my Japanese clients do not sleep on the streets after 50 rounds of Asahi. Hence, if anyone is capable of dealing with your clients according to their cultural background, trust me, you will be the person your boss YEARNS for.
At last, I will leave you a quote from George Bernard Shaw that set me thinking:
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
Peace out!
P.S: GBS won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925. Some guy!
Miranda
Rumbles from Miranda
HELLO!
Welcome to Miranda's 'rattle' ground!
First things first, I was once hooked to blogging. It was pretty interesting and enjoyable to talk jabberwocky as and when i like. However, after a while, I realised that it is not that exciting after all. I am just too lazy to upload pictures and and type in my 2 cents worth (Since they are just babbles and I am the Queen of nonsensical jabbers). Anyway, for the next few months, I hope that I would stick to my one and only rule: No blatherskite allowed.
By the way, other than leaving your IP address behind, please do leave your comments for me. I know I do commit some mistakes unknowingly. Therefore, do exercise some mercy on me. Make your comments as friendly as possible. I have a weak heart and violently-harsh comments would make me wobble.
Thank you for accommodating me and I look forward to your 20 cents worth too!
Peace out,
Miranda
Welcome to Miranda's 'rattle' ground!
First things first, I was once hooked to blogging. It was pretty interesting and enjoyable to talk jabberwocky as and when i like. However, after a while, I realised that it is not that exciting after all. I am just too lazy to upload pictures and and type in my 2 cents worth (Since they are just babbles and I am the Queen of nonsensical jabbers). Anyway, for the next few months, I hope that I would stick to my one and only rule: No blatherskite allowed.
By the way, other than leaving your IP address behind, please do leave your comments for me. I know I do commit some mistakes unknowingly. Therefore, do exercise some mercy on me. Make your comments as friendly as possible. I have a weak heart and violently-harsh comments would make me wobble.
Thank you for accommodating me and I look forward to your 20 cents worth too!
Peace out,
Miranda
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